We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves.

We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves. – Lynn Hall

I had an acquaintance through work who was very timid and shy, didn’t want to create waves.

I encouraged her to stand up for herself, to make her feelings known. Of course, when she did this to me, I became very upset. How could she talk to ME like that??? I was the one who had encouraged her to have more confidence in herself and to not take crap from people. But I didn’t mean ME. I meant that she should stand up to other people.

The truth is, when we encourage people to change, we don’t mean that they should change in the way that they act around us. We mean that they should change in other ways, with other people. But they should stay the same for us, because we don’t like change. We want them to be the same for us.

Don’t flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them. – Oliver Wendell Holmes

Support is only support if it is given in love, without ulterior motive. Support need not be trying to get someone to think like you; it can just be acceptance of the person as they are.

I may not be a parent, but I do know that parents always want to take the bite out of life for their kids. The unfortunate part is that, through your love, you are denying them experience and knowledge. When someone tells you that something is hot and that it hurts, you really don’t believe them until you touch it. It’s the same all the way through our lives; we really only learn through our own experiences.

That is what I’m trying to do; I need some experiences to teach me about myself and the world. I have to go through this door alone. And no one can protect me.

We always do what we MOST WANT to do, whether or not we like what we are doing at each instant of our lives. Wanting and liking many times are not the same thing. Many people have done what they say they didn’t want to do at a particular moment. And that may be true until one looks deeper into the motivation behind the doing. What they are really saying is the price they will have to pay or the consequences they will have to endure, for not doing that something may be too high or onerous for them not to do it. Such as going to work. Many people say they don’t want to go to work and yet they go. Which means they don’t want to risk losing their jobs and the negative hurting emotions associated with not having a job. It has been estimated about 90% to 95% of all people work at jobs which are unfulfilling and which they dislike and would leave in a minute if they only knew what they really wanted to do. - Sidney Madwed

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